What can be done with a child that processes his day internally, without saying much?
From the moment of birth, children cry out for attention. As the child becomes older the mechanism of attention gets more complicated. It takes an attentive adult to decipher exactly what the child is saying. One child may become silent, while crying out inside for someone, anyone to notice them. A preschooler may seek attention by throwing a tantrum. A fourth grader may seek attention by getting in trouble at school. A teenager may be seeking attention by starting to smoke. The bottom line is that the child wants you to pay attention to them without asking for it.
An attentive adult would look for non verbal communication. That adult would express affectionate interest in that child and give the child the attention they seek for.
If the child does not receive the attention they crave, the child will eventually disengage and count you as irrelevant. You will not have any authority with that child. That usually happens to coincide with a drivers license.
Inspiring to go Higher
Quiet Child
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
This Week in Children's Ministry
The Church
What is the church?
Why should we go to church?
What do church leaders do?
We’ll be discussing these points. Talk with your kids about these questions.
What is the church?
Why should we go to church?
What do church leaders do?
We’ll be discussing these points. Talk with your kids about these questions.
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
Facebook & Twitter & Children Part 2
Twitter is similar to Facebook in that users can express their thoughts — from the most simple to the most earth shattering — for the world to see. But there are a few key differences from Facebook:
It's important for your child to keep users from seeing her tweets unless they've been given specific permission. To do this, click on “Settings” from your account, click on “Account” and check the box saying “Protect my tweets.”
Your child should avoid tweeting her name, address or phone number. It's also important that she doesn't tweet where she is– like places in Facebook.
Only you and your child should know her password.
Make sure your child knows not to click on any link promising a quick way to get rich, a free prize or anything else that looks too good to be true. These tweets could be a scam to charge everyone who gave away their phone numbers a monthly fee without their knowledge.
You can set up a Twilert. http://www.twilert.com/ and follow whatever is said about your child on line.
Twitter is similar to Facebook in that users can express their thoughts — from the most simple to the most earth shattering — for the world to see. But there are a few key differences from Facebook:
It's important for your child to keep users from seeing her tweets unless they've been given specific permission. To do this, click on “Settings” from your account, click on “Account” and check the box saying “Protect my tweets.”
Your child should avoid tweeting her name, address or phone number. It's also important that she doesn't tweet where she is– like places in Facebook.
Only you and your child should know her password.
Make sure your child knows not to click on any link promising a quick way to get rich, a free prize or anything else that looks too good to be true. These tweets could be a scam to charge everyone who gave away their phone numbers a monthly fee without their knowledge.
You can set up a Twilert. http://www.twilert.com/ and follow whatever is said about your child on line.
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
Parenting Phase Two: Coach 2
After the early years of a child's life, a new phase starts. Probably around the 3rd or 4th grade. The child should be taught about work and wages - interviewing, hiring and even occasionally firing them from jobs around the house and garden. The idea is not only to teach but also to encourage their growth from direction to self-direction, giving them more responsibility with each new job.
It's good to help clarify - rather than dictate - a child's choices for them. "Would you rather do this . . . or that?" It should be a choice you as parent can live with. Obviously, don't tempt them to choose something wrong or foolish; the phrase is simply a tool to help them gain experience in making their own decisions. For example, You might ask, "Would you rather leave now for church and have time to talk to your friends, or leave a little later and go straight to your class?" The choices you give your child will help them think when you're not around.
It's good to help clarify - rather than dictate - a child's choices for them. "Would you rather do this . . . or that?" It should be a choice you as parent can live with. Obviously, don't tempt them to choose something wrong or foolish; the phrase is simply a tool to help them gain experience in making their own decisions. For example, You might ask, "Would you rather leave now for church and have time to talk to your friends, or leave a little later and go straight to your class?" The choices you give your child will help them think when you're not around.
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
We're studying the 16 fundamentals of the Assemblies of God. This week we're looking at the trinity.
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
Children’s Ministry This Week
Victory Everlasting
Jesus gives you power and authority over the enemy
Jesus gives you power and authority over the enemy
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
Standing Firm in Christ
Our children are surrounded by bigger problems than you and I ever faced, yet they must stand firm in Christ. We have to do everything we can to help them. You’re aware of the mountain of sin and destruction that is present in our public school system.
Jesus doesn’t change, and our children and we can stand firm with His help. Our kids and we can overcome peer pressure. We don’t have to give in to sin. We don’t have to compromise. When the world tries to bend us, or our enemy tries to break us, with God’s strength and power, we can stand firm. We don’t have to give in—just say no!
Our children are surrounded by bigger problems than you and I ever faced, yet they must stand firm in Christ. We have to do everything we can to help them. You’re aware of the mountain of sin and destruction that is present in our public school system.
Jesus doesn’t change, and our children and we can stand firm with His help. Our kids and we can overcome peer pressure. We don’t have to give in to sin. We don’t have to compromise. When the world tries to bend us, or our enemy tries to break us, with God’s strength and power, we can stand firm. We don’t have to give in—just say no!
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
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