Raising a Modern-Day Princess
Pam Farrel & Doreen Hanna
A Jewish girl’s rite of passage is called a bat mitzvah.
Age of 12 she is paired with a women mentor
This mentor will stay with the 12 year old girl for 1 year training her in the ways of Jewish womanhood.
In preparation for her mitzvah, she memorizes a passage from the Torah
On her 13th birthday she celebrates her rite of passage.
She and her mother shop for equivalent to a wedding dress.
On her special day she stands in her synagogue and reveals her knowledge of the Torah by quoting a portion from memory.
She demonstrates her talent, expresses her future goals and states where she will share 10 percent of the gifts with the poor.
Climactic Moment: Her rabbi and father publicly bless her
The dinner after the ceremony is usually quite elaborate as many family and friends are invited to celebrate and many attend bring very generous gifts.
Inspiring to go Higher
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
Over Churched Kids (Part 1)
1. Familiar Stories Lose Their Power: When kids hear the same Bible stories year-after-year they can become a little boring. Even worse - these stories are often told without imagination or any listener interaction. Most over-churched kids have heard the same 100+ Bible stories since they were in the Toddler Sunday School. They no longer connect with the characters or feel moved by the plot resolution.
2. Knowledge Can Promote Pride: Something happens inside of us when we become the expert. Children feel that same sense of superiority when they have more religious knowledge than their peers. Too often over-churched kids build their identity around that achievement, even when it doesn't involve a growing relationship with Christ.
3. They Have Learned to Pretend Pray: A real struggle for grown-ups is connecting with God through prayer. Too often it becomes routine and dry. Most younger children learn prayer as an act of imitation. Many don't even realize that something cosmic is happening when we address our words to God. They don't feel the presence of God or even expect that they should.
1. Familiar Stories Lose Their Power: When kids hear the same Bible stories year-after-year they can become a little boring. Even worse - these stories are often told without imagination or any listener interaction. Most over-churched kids have heard the same 100+ Bible stories since they were in the Toddler Sunday School. They no longer connect with the characters or feel moved by the plot resolution.
2. Knowledge Can Promote Pride: Something happens inside of us when we become the expert. Children feel that same sense of superiority when they have more religious knowledge than their peers. Too often over-churched kids build their identity around that achievement, even when it doesn't involve a growing relationship with Christ.
3. They Have Learned to Pretend Pray: A real struggle for grown-ups is connecting with God through prayer. Too often it becomes routine and dry. Most younger children learn prayer as an act of imitation. Many don't even realize that something cosmic is happening when we address our words to God. They don't feel the presence of God or even expect that they should.
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
Quiet Child
What can be done with a child that processes his day internally, without saying much?
From the moment of birth, children cry out for attention. As the child becomes older the mechanism of attention gets more complicated. It takes an attentive adult to decipher exactly what the child is saying. One child may become silent, while crying out inside for someone, anyone to notice them. A preschooler may seek attention by throwing a tantrum. A fourth grader may seek attention by getting in trouble at school. A teenager may be seeking attention by starting to smoke. The bottom line is that the child wants you to pay attention to them without asking for it.
An attentive adult would look for non verbal communication. That adult would express affectionate interest in that child and give the child the attention they seek for.
If the child does not receive the attention they crave, the child will eventually disengage and count you as irrelevant. You will not have any authority with that child. That usually happens to coincide with a drivers license.
From the moment of birth, children cry out for attention. As the child becomes older the mechanism of attention gets more complicated. It takes an attentive adult to decipher exactly what the child is saying. One child may become silent, while crying out inside for someone, anyone to notice them. A preschooler may seek attention by throwing a tantrum. A fourth grader may seek attention by getting in trouble at school. A teenager may be seeking attention by starting to smoke. The bottom line is that the child wants you to pay attention to them without asking for it.
An attentive adult would look for non verbal communication. That adult would express affectionate interest in that child and give the child the attention they seek for.
If the child does not receive the attention they crave, the child will eventually disengage and count you as irrelevant. You will not have any authority with that child. That usually happens to coincide with a drivers license.
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
This Week in Children's Ministry
The Church
What is the church?
Why should we go to church?
What do church leaders do?
We’ll be discussing these points. Talk with your kids about these questions.
What is the church?
Why should we go to church?
What do church leaders do?
We’ll be discussing these points. Talk with your kids about these questions.
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
Facebook & Twitter & Children Part 2
Twitter is similar to Facebook in that users can express their thoughts — from the most simple to the most earth shattering — for the world to see. But there are a few key differences from Facebook:
It's important for your child to keep users from seeing her tweets unless they've been given specific permission. To do this, click on “Settings” from your account, click on “Account” and check the box saying “Protect my tweets.”
Your child should avoid tweeting her name, address or phone number. It's also important that she doesn't tweet where she is– like places in Facebook.
Only you and your child should know her password.
Make sure your child knows not to click on any link promising a quick way to get rich, a free prize or anything else that looks too good to be true. These tweets could be a scam to charge everyone who gave away their phone numbers a monthly fee without their knowledge.
You can set up a Twilert. http://www.twilert.com/ and follow whatever is said about your child on line.
Twitter is similar to Facebook in that users can express their thoughts — from the most simple to the most earth shattering — for the world to see. But there are a few key differences from Facebook:
It's important for your child to keep users from seeing her tweets unless they've been given specific permission. To do this, click on “Settings” from your account, click on “Account” and check the box saying “Protect my tweets.”
Your child should avoid tweeting her name, address or phone number. It's also important that she doesn't tweet where she is– like places in Facebook.
Only you and your child should know her password.
Make sure your child knows not to click on any link promising a quick way to get rich, a free prize or anything else that looks too good to be true. These tweets could be a scam to charge everyone who gave away their phone numbers a monthly fee without their knowledge.
You can set up a Twilert. http://www.twilert.com/ and follow whatever is said about your child on line.
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
Parenting Phase Two: Coach 2
After the early years of a child's life, a new phase starts. Probably around the 3rd or 4th grade. The child should be taught about work and wages - interviewing, hiring and even occasionally firing them from jobs around the house and garden. The idea is not only to teach but also to encourage their growth from direction to self-direction, giving them more responsibility with each new job.
It's good to help clarify - rather than dictate - a child's choices for them. "Would you rather do this . . . or that?" It should be a choice you as parent can live with. Obviously, don't tempt them to choose something wrong or foolish; the phrase is simply a tool to help them gain experience in making their own decisions. For example, You might ask, "Would you rather leave now for church and have time to talk to your friends, or leave a little later and go straight to your class?" The choices you give your child will help them think when you're not around.
It's good to help clarify - rather than dictate - a child's choices for them. "Would you rather do this . . . or that?" It should be a choice you as parent can live with. Obviously, don't tempt them to choose something wrong or foolish; the phrase is simply a tool to help them gain experience in making their own decisions. For example, You might ask, "Would you rather leave now for church and have time to talk to your friends, or leave a little later and go straight to your class?" The choices you give your child will help them think when you're not around.
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
We're studying the 16 fundamentals of the Assemblies of God. This week we're looking at the trinity.
Randy Tramp, author of Night to Knight, parent of 11 children (8 adopted), traveled around the globe in the Navy, camp director for mentally/physically disabled, safari in Africa, worked at a Federal Prison, Children’s Pastor before turning his full attention to writing.
He writes books, blogs and short stories.
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